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“To spend or not to spend? That tis the question.” Every once in a while I receive inquiries concerning clothes and finances; specifically, how do I balance the two. I’m always reluctant to answer because I have found that there is no perfect answer to any question dealing with the following:

1. Religion

2. Politics

3. Money

I’m pretty sure terms like “different strokes for different folks” and “to each his own” were invented to absolve, resolve and dissolve arguments surrounding any of the above topics. Instead of stating what I feel to be the ‘right answer’ for deeply subjective questions, I prefer a ‘this is what works for me and this is what I believe” approach. My retail doctrine is simply that: Mine. I’m not an expert. I’m just a girl who loves clothes. You may find another financial philosophy that you like better. Don’t worry. No hard feelings. =)

I shaped my retail spending strategy at a very early age. When I began working at the age of 14 I implemented my very first clothing budget… And by “budget” I mean, “spend every solitary cent on clothes you can without incurring an overdraft fee.” As adulthood reared its ugly head, I had to amend this “Spend to the Precipice of Poverty” dogma to accommodate my increasingly expansive financial landscape.  Who knew life had so many monetary demands! FICA, Social Security, health, dental, and vision insurance, IRA, 401k, car insurance, disability insurance, life insurance, weddings, moving expenses, rent/mortgage payments, food expenses, utility expenses, travel expenses, entertainment expenses- not to mention miscellaneous expenses, and more expenses, expenses, expenses, expenses, oh, and more expenses. It all seemed so complicated! And while it took some time for me to develop a system that works best for my budget, the best advice I can give to balance clothes and finances is to use common sense:

1. Get a financial advisor.

Whether you have $0.10 or $10 million in your bank account, if you are not an expert on finances, invest in a resource that can help. It can be a financial planner, investment broker, financial planning book, or app (Mint.com is my personal favorite).  Find away to keep track of your income/expenses and ensure that you are meeting your financial needs before you are accommodating your lifestyle wants. Yes you NEED a savings account. Yes, you NEED to pay your rent on time (It’s not worth paying late penalties, TRUST ME!). And while sometimes we feel there’s an article of clothing that we NEED (I mean have you seen THESE little numbers by YSL!) if we’re truly honest with ourselves, we don’t.  It’s a painful pill to swallow. But it’s important. And once you come to the realization clothes are just that- clothes, it takes a lot of pressure off meeting your other financial goals.

2. “If you can’t buy it in cash, don’t buy it at all.“

My first retail job was at Express when I was 16 years old and our signature sales line was, ‘Would you like to open an Express Card and save 15% on your total purchase today.”  In retrospect it makes me sick to my stomach to think how many innocent souls I enabled into Credit Card Captivity. Here’s the honest truth: no store credit card is worth it. None. And the blunt truth is any amount of money you save from using the store credit card you will just end up paying back in interest. Trust me- if stores were not profiting (quite heavily I might add) off of credit card sales, they wouldn’t promote them as hard as they do.  Am I the only person that has been down right ACCOSTED from a sales person trying to get me to open a credit card! And before you think I’m picking on store credit cards, I don’t think you should use any line of credit to purchase clothing. Whenever you buy clothes use cash, check or debit cards. NEVER credit. Not even to buy a Retail Unicorn. A Retail Unicorn is a term I made up that refers to any item that meets the following criteria:

1. It’s absolutely gorgeous!

2. It’s on sale!

3. It’s in my size!

4. It’s the last one left! (Therefore if I don’t get it I will be eternally unhappy!)

To date I have found 11 Retail Unicorns in my life and have had to leave countless others behind, much to my dismay and frustration. However, the pain you encounter missing out on that one must-have item will not even begin to compare to the pain you experience having credit card debt. It’s just not worth it.

3. Value is the key.

My college Economics professor once told me, ‘A dollar is only worth what you can get for it.” When it comes to finding the balance between clothes and finances make sure you are getting the best value for your money. Money is a precious commodity and no matter if you have a lot or a little of it, it’s important to take financial responsibility seriously.  Only buy clothing that is a good value for your money. That means you are getting just as much out of it as you are putting into it. Obviously, this is a qualitative metric so only you can know the answer to that question. At the end of the day trust your judgment… unless of course your judgment tells you to buy clothes using a credit card. Then no- you should kick that judgment in the crotch and run for cover. =)

Until next time, 

xoxo

FreshWithDepth

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It’s no secret that I have an undeniable affinity for bold colors and rich hues. Something about pop-worthy pigments just sets my soul aflame! And while color is what moves me, neutrals are still essential in every woman’s wardrobe. Traditionally black, white, khaki, navy and olive green are considered to be perfect plays-well-with-other colors. However, I would like to induct winter’s ‘It Girl,’ Oxblood, to the list. While Oxblood is considered a winter color because of its tone and saturation, I have found that it creates perfect pairings with Spring florals, pastels and bold prints. While I’m packing away my winter wardrobe in the next few weeks, I’ll be sure to leave a few of these gems.

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What is your go-to neutral to transition between seasons?

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No outfit post tonight- instead I’m online answering all fashion/style questions via Skype chat: FreshWithDepth and email: freshwithdepth@gmail.com.

I’ll be around until around 11:00 p.m. CST. =)

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“Men-spiration: Floral Edition”

I love pairing men’s clothing with super feminine details. Because the men’s shirt is so long I chose not to tuck it in. I think it provides a welcomed juxtaposition to the ornate shoes and necklace. =)

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“Denim X Denim”

Two posts tonight as promised. Stay tuned. =)

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Hola Peeps, My phone is not letting me publish my post and I’m not near a computer. Sorry about that! I’ll post 2 outfits tomorrow. See ya then! =)

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About Face

I’m not a beauty guru so I keep my facial care regimen as simple as possible. These are my tried and true go-tos! They’re cost effective and efficacious. 

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Anonymous: Hi! Welcome back!!!!!!! I'm not 21 yet :-( What are some fun things to do in Nashville like for dates and stuff? THanx

My favorite date night location is the Strike and Spare in Hendersonville. It has laser tag, bowling, skating, traditional arcade games, and bumper cars! It’s a perfect one-stop-shop for anything that interests you (and your date)! You can also try a paint-your-own-pottery place that I think is super dope. There’s also a similar place in Franklin if that’s closer to you. Another epic destination for a date night (or day) is Sky High Sports! Even though I’m over 21 it’s still one of my favorite places to have fun in the city.

You also can consider organizing a traditional game night at someone’s home with friends. You can play card games, Taboo, Pit (my personal favorite), Guesstures, Pictionary, Scategories, Cranium, among other board games. Another option for a game night with friends is using a game system like a Kinect or Wii. Games like Just Dance 4 and the Michael Jackson Experience always make for memorable moments!

Carpe iuventutem! =)

Anonymous: Congrats on your new endeavor in sewing! Hopefully I'll see you on project runway!!!

That would be the coolest thing ever considering Project Runway is one of my favorite shows! I’m hoping the show isn’t cancelled before I can get decent enough to try out for it! Lol. My goal is to practice all this year and maybe have something ready for sale by late next year some time… Hopefully. I’m still practicing with elastic and button closures so I’m not sure how realistic that goal is but I’m dreaming big anyway! =)

thestardreamer: Hey girl and happy new year to you! Quick question. Do you wear clip-ons or did you pierce your ears? I'm contemplating piercing mine but I'm wearing clip-ons right now. lol

Hey love! My ears are pierced but I didn’t pierce them until I was 25 so I have an extensive collection of clip-on earrings. I find the best ones at thrift shops and vintage boutiques! It really just depends on your personal preference if you would like pierced/clip ons because you can find amazing styles in both. If you have reservations about piercings (such as pain, scarring, or religious convictions) you can always take a fantastic pair of pierced earrings and convert them into clip ons so you can have the best of both worlds! =)

Anonymous: Is it ok to follow you on Instagram or do you only post your cool ish on here? I dont wanna intrude into your private life lol

You’re more than welcome to follow my Instagram! I keep my account public so anyone can follow me if they choose. I don’t post often but I hope you find it worth while anyway. =)

Anonymous: What's your favorite song and book?

I’m really indecisive so questions like this are REALLY hard for me! Picking a favorite song is like trying to pick a favorite child. I love them all but for different reasons. Here’s a quick list off the top of my head of songs: 

Favorite Song (If I absolutely had to pick just one)

Favorite Song From A New Artist

Favorite Love Song Right Now

Favorite Love Song Of All Time

Favorite Love Song Duet

Favorite Lyrics

Favorite Christian (and also this and this)

Favorite Wedding Song (and also this)

Favorite Trap Song (and also this and sadly this)

Favorite Dance Song (and also this and definitely this)

Favorite Song To Get Dressed to (and also this)

Favorite Song To Play In The Car (and also this)

Favorite Karaoke Song (and also this)

Favorite Chillaxin’ Song

Favorite Song I Discovered On Tumblr

Books are a lot easier to narrow down because I reread my favorites over and over and over! Most of these are cliche but I don’t mind. The classics are classic for a reason!

Everything Roald Dahl has ever written

The Purpose Driven Life

Outliers

The Autobiography of Malcolm X

Jane Eyre

The Thorn Birds

Hope this helps! Thank you for asking. =)

“Pretty in Pink” (Hers + His Edition)

BTW- I’ll post some answered inquiries tomorrow. I figured no one had time to read all that tonight. =)

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“Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself”

The most frequently asked question I receive concerning my style is what do I wear when I’m not wearing a dress/skirt. =) I usually avoid pants but I always make an exception for these because they are my ideal balance of masculine and feminine. The floral print creates an illusion of camouflage print that I think is super dope. I don’t own sneakers so even when I’m not in a dress, I’m still usually in heels. Heels help me cope with my Napoleon complex- I can’t help myself.

In completely unrelated news, my newest hair care obsession is John Frieda Frizz-Ease Thermal Protection Formula Hair Serum. It’s magic, I swear!

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Well, hello there.

My name is FreshWithDepth and I’m a rogue blogger. To say I have taken a break from the blogosphere would be the understatement of the century so I’ll start by simply saying “I’m sorry.” The truth is I’ve missed you all terribly as sharing my inspirations and perspective is more integral to my life than yours. This blog was my outlet for ideas during a pivotal point in my life’s journey and surviving the past year without it has been an adjustment to say the least. 

Eric Roth once wrote: “For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same; there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” And today is the day I find the courage to start this blog all over again. Welcome to the Reset Button. I hope you enjoy my new journey filled with a new perspective and new life adventures. So here’s the latest:

I got married! =) I’ve been very fortunate enough to commit my life to the coolest guy I know.  We’ve taken the past few months to settle into our new home, write plenty of ‘Thank you’ cards, and adjust to this new chapter. It’s been a delightful episode of love and romance that restores my faith in humanity and the sanctity of marriage. He’s my greatest gift and I’m undoubtedly the luckiest girl in the world!

I’m also in the very, very, very beginning stages on my quest to become a seamstress and fashion designer. I’m currently enrolled in sewing classes that are teaching me technical skills, and I hope to begin an apprenticeship with a local tailor by the summer time.  I’ve never been so nervously excited for anything in my entire life.

In addition to getting hitched and dreaming big, I’m also getting old…er….ish. I will be turning a proud 26 years of age on March 10th, 2013 and my gift to myself is to follow through on my passions and honor my commitments. It’s no secret that I have an overpowering penchant for procrastination, but I’ve reached a time in my life where I’m challenging myself to be better, to do better, and to conquer the thing that keeps me from truly giving my best at all times. So for 26 days leading up to my 26th birthday I will post every single day. Yup. You read that right. 26 days of answered inquiries, inspired attire, product reviews, and shopping hauls.  There’s even a tutorial video marinating in the queue for good measure.

I hope you find it worth the wait. I hope I don’t disappoint myself. I hope I end this 25th chapter and begin my 26th with nothing but courage to live a life I’m proud of.

Cheers to new beginnings.

Fresh With Depth

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